Reflect on the loss of a friendship, recognize your worth, and embrace the clarity of personal growth.

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Outgrowing the Hands That Once Held Us: Letting Go, Growing Stronger, and Knowing Your Worth is a meditation on understanding that as we each evolve into ourselves, we will inevitably lose things and people along the way. This hurt can bring with it understanding and clarity, but the lessons it teaches leave a mark, and that is okay.

Outgrowing The Hands That Once Held Us: Losing A Friend

Together, today, we'll meditate on loss. Loss of a friendship. Loss of a structure that maybe held you up for many years. Let's start by getting into our body. Taking a few deep breaths, exactly as you are. And then just noticing if you could relax your shoulders, just 5 or 10% more. Letting them fall away from the ears. And taking any final shuffles that you need to make you feel comfortable. Outgrowing the hands that once held us. Letting go, growing stronger and knowing your worth. Friendships are supposed to uplift, support and encourage us to grow. But sometimes what we believe to be friendship is something else entirely. Manipulation disguised as loyalty. Control masked as care. True friends want to see you thrive, even if that means watching you walk away into something better. But not everyone in our lives fits that definition. A lesson worth learning is that some people hold you close, not to lift you up, but to keep you beneath them. They push you, but only within the boundaries they set. They praise you, but only to ensure your loyalty. When you finally recognise this dynamic, you step away. Their presence vanishes as if it was never real. And in some ways, it wasn't. If you've ever felt confused by a friendship that left you questioning your worth, your potential, or even your own reality, you are not alone. These friendships often blur the line between companionship and control, making it hard to see the damage until you are free from it. It can feel like betrayal, but in truth, it's a revelation. A painful, yet necessary one. One of the hardest lessons in life is to understand that people come into our world for a season or a reason. Some stay, some go, and not all departures will make sense. The loss of a friendship, especially when it ends because you choose yourself, can be one of the most painful kinds. It forces you to re-evaluate everything you once shared. Were the good times real? Was the connection genuine? Or was it all conditional? But here's the truth. A friendship that cannot withstand your personal growth was never a real friendship. Real friends celebrate your evolution, even if it takes you in a different direction. They don't see your success as a threat. They don't hold you back from your own gain. So how do you measure a true friendship? Not by time spent together, but by the freedom you feel within it. A real friend does not bind you, manipulate you, or see you as a means to an end. A real friend does not vanish when you step into your own power. They stand beside you, not above you. If you've ever had to walk away from a friendship that made you feel small, know this. You are not losing, you are gaining clarity. And in that clarity, you will find the people who truly belong in your life. Those who love you not for what you can give them, but simply for who you are. Just taking a few moments to let the words resonate with you. Knowing that everything is temporary, and even this difficult time, as you try to understand the loss of a friendship, will pass. And there will be lessons that show themselves when you're ready to receive them. Draw your attention back into the breath. Taking a few deep breaths in and out of your nostrils. And taking a moment of gratitude for yourself, for showing up here and carving out this slice of time for yourself. Being curious enough to wonder why you're feeling a certain way, or why you're interested in these topics. When you're ready, gently blinking open the eyes.